How About Two Personal New Years!

 On an unusually cool September day in Alabama, while in a drab mood, I was on my way back from walking my dogs when I looked across my yard, thinking about how the plants and atmosphere had changed. Just then, a crisp breeze signaled the arrival of fall. In that quiet moment, I pondered autumn routines without realizing I was sensing the equinox. Thinking to myself, I love the feel of fall. But then I think, 'Nah, this has to be Alabama’s false fall.' Oh well, I still love it and wish every day felt that way.

🌏This realization prompted deeper reflection. Although I had often heard of the fall equinox, I had never fully understood it. When I read about the equinox on the 22nd this year, my curiosity was sparked—I wanted to learn what it is, how it shapes the seasons, and how it might affect us. I began researching on my laptop, using Microsoft and Google, taking notes as I went. I was surprised to read the suggestion that we treat the equinox like a personal New Year. Keeping things simple, write down goals, affirmations, or habits you want to apply to your life. If you think about it, that allows you to reset twice a year.

🔎Through my research, I learned that an equinox is a cosmic reset for Earth’s seasons, occurring twice a year when day and night are equal—around March 20 and September 22 in the Northern Hemisphere. ("Autumnal Equinox", 2025) It marks the start of spring in the Southern Hemisphere. ("Autumnal Equinox | Definition, Dates, & Facts", 2025) During an equinox, the sun sits over the equator, balancing day and night. (Clark, 2024) Earth’s 23.5-degree tilt, like a tilted lamp, causes this shift. ("The Effect of the Earth's Tilt on the Occurrence of Equinoxes", n.d.)

📆This led me to another interesting point: when the equinox actually begins depends on whom you ask. I learned that equinox timing varies: meteorologists mark it on March 20, while astronomers note it on March 21 at 2:19 Eastern Standard Time. ("Embracing the Equinox", 2025) This illustrates the various ways the autumn equinox is defined, depending on the purpose—whether for forecasting or celestial tracking.

🪞Reflecting on all of this, I realized that equinoxes can provide a mental and emotional reset. As daylight and darkness balance, it’s an ideal time to embrace change. Journaling through this period—writing what to release and welcome until Spring—can help you find balance. Ritual suggestions include lighting candles and incense, as well as reciting a mantra to help you relax and unwind. Reconnecting socially can be achieved by going for a walk in the park and greeting others as you pass.

 Additionally, clearing your space through spring or fall cleaning, such as organizing your seasonal attire, can also be beneficial. Decluttering your space declutters your mind. Begin with something simple, such as updating your makeup collection for the new season or decluttering it. 

AWH 9/10/2025

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* Resources:

Autumnal Equinox. (2025). Encyclopaedia Britannica. https://www.britannica.com/science/autumnal-equinox

Autumnal Equinox | Definition, Dates, & Facts. (2025). www.britannica.com/science/autumnal-equinox. https://www.britannica.com/science/autumnal-equinox

Clark, Stuart (2024). Starwatch: Night and day reach the same length after the autumnal equinox. Unknown Journal.

The Effect of the Earth's Tilt on the Occurrence of Equinoxes. (n.d.). equinoxworld.org. https://equinoxworld.org/the-effect-of-the-earths-tilt-on-the-occurrence-of-equinoxes/

Embracing the Equinox. (2025). NASA Science. https://science.nasa.gov/solar-system/skywatching/night-sky-network/embracing-the-equinox/

Show Your Stripes

 

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🐯 Show Your Stripes: Let’s Paint Dadeville Gold & Black for the Tigers!

As the school year kicks off, it’s time for our town to roar with pride! The Dadeville Tigers are gearing up for another exciting season, and what better way to show our support than by decorating our homes, storefronts, and streets in bold gold and black?

🎉 Why It Matters

School spirit isn’t just for students—it’s a community celebration! When Dadeville comes together to support our Tigers, we create an atmosphere of pride, unity, and encouragement that lifts everyone up. Whether it’s football, cheer, band, or academics, our students thrive when they feel the love from their hometown.

🏡 How You Can Join In

Citizens:

• Hang gold and black ribbons on your mailbox or porch.
• Display a yard sign or flag with the Tigers logo.
• Decorate your car windows with washable paint or decals.

Businesses:

• Add gold and black balloons or streamers to your storefront.
• Create a themed window display featuring Tiger gear.
• Offer a “Tiger Spirit” discount or promotion to customers wearing school colors.

📸 Share the Spirit!

We want to see your creativity! Snap a photo of your decorations and tag us using #DadevilleTigersPride or #DadevilleExperience. Let’s flood social media with Tiger love and show our students that their town is behind them 100%.

“It Was Just a Joke…” — Hidden Forms of Bullying on Social Media

 

💬 “It Was Just a Joke…” — Hidden Forms of Bullying on Social Media

We often picture bullying as loud, obvious, and cruel. But some of the most harmful behaviors hide behind humor, “helpfulness,” or social norms — especially online. These subtle forms of bullying can leave lasting emotional bruises, even when the intent wasn’t malicious. Let’s name them, challenge them, and offer kinder alternatives.

🧠 1. The Spelling Police

Correcting someone’s spelling or grammar in public comments — especially when unsolicited — can feel like a slap to their intelligence or dignity. It’s often framed as “helping,” but it can shame people with dyslexia, ADHD, language differences, or simply those typing quickly on a phone.

Why it hurts:

• Undermines the message by focusing on form over meaning

• Reinforces elitist ideas about intelligence

• Publicly embarrasses someone for a minor mistake

Try instead: Celebrate the courage it takes to share. If correction is truly needed (e.g., in a professional collaboration), offer it privately and gently.

😬 2. Backhanded Compliments

“You’re pretty for a bigger girl.” “You’re so articulate — I didn’t expect that!” “You’re brave to post that photo.”

These comments may sound positive, but they carry hidden judgments about body size, race, ability, or social norms.

Why it hurts:

• Implies the person is an exception to a negative stereotype

• Makes people feel “othered” or tokenized

• Can trigger self-doubt or shame

Try instead: Give compliments that honor the whole person — not just how they defy expectations.

😂 3. Jokes About Physical Appearance

Memes, filters, and “funny” captions often poke fun at features like noses, skin tone, weight, or hair texture. Even when not directed at someone specific, they reinforce harmful beauty standards.

Why it hurts:

• Normalizes body shaming

• Targets people who already feel insecure

• Makes social spaces feel unsafe for self-expression

Try instead: Share humor that uplifts, not punches down. Celebrate diverse beauty and authenticity.

📱 4. Tagging Without Consent

Tagging someone in an unflattering photo or meme — especially one that mocks their appearance, beliefs, or interests — can feel like a digital ambush.

Why it hurts:

• Removes their control over how they’re represented

• Invites unwanted attention or ridicule

• Can trigger anxiety or shame

Try instead: Ask before tagging. Respect boundaries and honor people’s digital dignity.

🕵️‍♀️ 5. Subtweeting and Vaguebooking

Posting cryptic complaints or sarcasm clearly aimed at someone — without naming them — is a form of passive-aggressive bullying. It invites gossip and isolates the target.

Why it hurts:

• Creates anxiety and confusion

• Encourages public judgment without accountability

• Damages trust and community

Try instead: If you’re hurt, speak directly and kindly. If you need to vent, do it privately or creatively (hello, poetry!).

🧩 6. Exclusion by Design

Leaving someone out of group chats, photo tags, or event posts — especially when it’s intentional — can be a quiet form of bullying.

Why it hurts:

• Signals “you don’t belong here”

• Reinforces social hierarchies

• Can trigger deep feelings of rejection

Try instead: Be inclusive in your digital spaces. If someone’s not invited, don’t flaunt it.

🌱 Final Thoughts: Kindness Is a Practice

Bullying isn’t always loud. Sometimes it’s a whisper, a joke, a tag, or a comment that cuts deeper than we realize. But we can choose a different way — one rooted in dignity, empathy, and belonging.

Let’s make social media a place where every voice is honored, every body is welcome, and every post is a chance to build connection, not tear it down.

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#SpellingIsNotIntelligence

#SideHandedCompliments

#BullyingAwareness

#EndBullying

#BullyingPrevention

#CyberBullyingHelp

#NoToBullying

#WordsMatter

#KindnessMatters

#CreateSafeSpaces

#DigitalDignity

#TaggingWithoutConsent

#BodyShamingHurts

#SubtweetingIsBullying

#CompassionateCommunication

#SocialMediaKindness

#EmotionalSafetyOnline

“Spelling Isn’t a Measure of Intelligence”

 

✍️ “Spelling Isn’t a Measure of Intelligence”

Why We Need to Retire the Red Pen and Embrace Real Communication

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🧠 The Myth of Spelling = Intelligence

• Many people equate perfect spelling with intelligence, professionalism, or even moral worth.

• However, spelling is a narrow skill—often tied to memory, visual processing, and access to early education—not a reflection of creativity, empathy, or problem-solving.

• Intelligence comes in many forms: linguistic, emotional, spatial, musical, and interpersonal. Spelling taps only a sliver of that spectrum.

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🌟 Brilliant Minds, Bad Spellers

Here are just a few famously intelligent people who struggled with spelling:

Name	Known For	Spelling Struggles
Albert Einstein	Physics, Theory of Relativity	Known for poor grammar and spelling in letters
Agatha Christie	Bestselling mystery novelist	Admitted she was “a hopeless speller”
Winston Churchill	British Prime Minister, Nobel Prize winner	Teachers noted spelling issues in early education
Jane Austen	Literary icon	Original manuscripts show frequent spelling inconsistencies
William Faulkner	Nobel-winning author	Often misspelled words and invented his own syntax
Thomas Edison	Inventor	Had minimal formal education and struggled with written language

These individuals changed the world—not because they spelled perfectly, but because they thought deeply, imagined boldly, and communicated powerfully.

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🧬 The Science of Spelling

• Neurological diversity: Dyslexia and other learning differences affect spelling ability, even in knowledgeable individuals.

• Working memory: Spelling relies on short-term memory and visual recall, which vary widely.

• Language exposure: Socioeconomic background, multilingual households, and regional dialects shape spelling development.

• Cognitive load: In high-stress or fast-paced environments, spelling errors are more likely, not because of ignorance, but because the brain prioritizes meaning over mechanics.

🚨 The “Spelling Police” Phenomenon

• These are the folks who correct others publicly, often with condescension or superiority.

• Their behavior can shame, silence, or derail meaningful conversations.

• In a world of autocorrect, voice-to-text, and rapid communication, is it beneficial—or kind—to act like unpaid editors?

“Correcting someone’s spelling in a comment thread doesn’t make you smarter. It makes you louder.”

 

📱 Modern Communication Isn’t a Grammar Test

• We text while juggling kids, jobs, grief, and groceries.

• We post from phones with cracked screens and autocorrect quirks.

• We speak into voice apps that mishear “there” as “their.”

• The goal is connection, not perfection.

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💛 A Call for Compassionate Communication

• Let’s celebrate clarity, creativity, and courage in expression.

• Let’s uplift voices that may not spell every word right, but speak truth.

• Let’s retire the red pen and pick up the listening ear.

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🌟 Brilliance Beyond the Spellcheck: Living Proof

It’s easy to assume that poor spelling is a sign of carelessness or low intelligence. However, this myth falls apart when we examine some of the most creative, successful, and visionary individuals alive today, many of whom have openly shared their struggles with spelling.

Take Richard Branson, the adventurous founder of Virgin Group. He’s dyslexic and has said that spelling was never his strong suit, but that didn’t stop him from building a global empire. Or Keira Knightley, who overcame early spelling challenges to become one of the most respected actresses of her generation.

Whoopi Goldberg and Tom Cruise both faced spelling and reading difficulties due to dyslexia, yet their careers have spanned decades and inspired millions. Even Anderson Cooper, known for his sharp journalism, has admitted he’s a poor speller who leans heavily on spellcheck.

And then there’s Cher, Steven Spielberg, and Barbara Corcoran—each a powerhouse in their field, each with a story of spelling struggles that never defined their worth.

These aren’t cautionary tales. They’re reminders that spelling is just one tiny thread in the tapestry of human intelligence. And sometimes, the most brilliant minds don’t color inside the lines—they rewrite them.

 

• Judge Judith Sheindlin
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• George Washington
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• Winston Churchill
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• Agatha Christie
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• Andrew Jackson
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• Albert Einstein
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• Ernest Hemingway
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• F. Scott Fitzgerald
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• Olivia Clemens (wife of Mark Twain),
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• William Butler Yeats
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• Dan Quayle

 #DifferentNotDeficient #RedefiningSmart #SpellingIsNotIntelligence #ArtfulIntelligence #YouBelong#KindnessFirst #CelebrateDifference #EveryMindMatters #WarmWisdom #dadevilleexperience #kindvoicescommunications 

Memorial Day Stay at Home Ideas

 Staying home for Memorial Day weekend doesn't mean missing out on the fun. It can be the perfect opportunity to relax, reflect, and enjoy quality time with loved ones. 

Memorial Day Weekend at Home: Fun & Relaxing Ways to Celebrate

Memorial Day weekend is often associated with beach trips, barbecues, and travel, but staying home can be just as enjoyable—and maybe even more relaxing! Whether you're looking for ways to honor the holiday or unwind, here are some creative ideas to maximize your time at home.

1. Host a Backyard BBQ (or Indoor Feast!)

Fire up the grill or whip up a delicious spread in your kitchen. Classic Memorial Day meals like burgers, hot dogs, and grilled veggies bring the holiday spirit to your home. Don't forget refreshing drinks and festive desserts!

2. Create a DIY Outdoor Movie Night

Set up a projector or use your TV outside for a cozy backyard movie experience. Grab blankets, string up some lights, and enjoy patriotic films like Saving Private Ryan or The Sandlot.

3. Honor the Meaning of Memorial Day

Take some time to reflect and pay tribute to those who served. You can visit virtual memorials, write letters to veterans, or observe the National Moment of Remembrance at 3 PM local time.

4. Try a New Recipe & Bake Something Special

Get creative in the kitchen! Try making festive red, white, and blue treats, like berry shortcakes or patriotic cupcakes. Cooking can be both fun and rewarding.

5. Have a DIY Spa Day

Pamper yourself with homemade face masks, relaxing baths, and scented candles. A long weekend is the perfect excuse for self-care and relaxation.

6. Plan a Backyard/Indoor Campout

Set up a tent, roast marshmallows, and enjoy some stargazing. If the weather isn't ideal, create a cozy indoor fort and tell stories or play board games.

7. Dive into a Good Book or Series

Use this weekend to start that book you've been meaning to read or binge-watch a new show. Whether it's historical fiction or lighthearted comedy, make it a guilt-free relaxation session.

8. Host a Virtual Game Night

Invite friends and family to join a virtual trivia night or online board game session. It's a great way to stay connected and have fun together.

9. Take on a DIY Home Project

Stay active by taking on a DIY home project you want to do. 

10. Set Up a Picnic Indoors or Outdoors

Create a fun picnic experience, whether it's in your backyard, on your balcony, or even indoors! Pack a basket with sandwiches, fruit, and lemonade for an easy way to make the day feel special.

MORE IDEAS:

11. Have a moment of silence.

12. Light a remembrance candle.

13. Have a bake-off. 

14. Create chalk art

15. Gardening

16. Make a photo collage of the Veterans in your family. 

17. Virtual tour of the White House

18. Make poppies. 

19. Solitaire or card games. 

20. Water gun painting. 

Movie ideas to honor Memorial Day:

• “Glory” (1989) 
• “A Few Good Men” 
• “Windtalkers” 
• “Harriet” 
• “Saving Private Ryan” 
• “G.I. 
• “Sergeant York” 
• The Tuskegee Airmen
• "Forest Gump"
• "Full Metal Jacket"
• "MASH"

Memorial Day weekend at home can be as meaningful and fun as any getaway—sometimes, it's even better! 

Top 10 Ways to Stay Focused in a Distracting World

In an age where notifications, social media, and everyday chaos constantly pull our attention in different directions, staying focused can feel like a battle. But fear not—whether working, studying, or simply trying to complete daily tasks, here are ten effective strategies to sharpen your concentration and get things done.

1. Set Clear, Achievable Goals

Start each day with a specific list of realistic goals. Writing down your objectives can significantly increase the chances of accomplishing them. Break larger tasks into smaller, manageable steps to keep momentum and motivation high.

2. Eliminate Digital Distractions

Our devices can be our biggest enemies when it comes to staying focused. Try enabling "Do Not Disturb" mode, using website blockers, or setting specific times to check your phone rather than letting notifications dictate your attention.

3. Practice Deep Work

Deep work is focusing intensely on a cognitively demanding task without distraction. Create time blocks for uninterrupted work and challenge yourself to strengthen your ability to concentrate for more extended periods.

4. Create a Distraction-Free Environment

Your surroundings impact your ability to focus. Whether it's a clutter-free workspace, noise-canceling headphones, or soft background music, set up your environment to minimize interruptions and maximize concentration.

5. Take Regular Breaks

Working hours without breaks can lead to fatigue and a decline in productivity. The Pomodoro Technique—working in 25-minute intervals followed by short breaks—can help maintain focus while preventing burnout.

6. Fuel Your Brain

What you eat and drink affects your concentration levels. Stay hydrated and eat brain-boosting foods like nuts, leafy greens, and fish. Avoid excessive caffeine or sugar crashes, which can negatively affect your energy levels.

7. Move Your Body

Physical movement improves circulation and enhances cognitive function. Whether it's a short walk, stretching, or a full workout, incorporating movement into your routine can help refocus your mind.

8. Train Your Mind with Mindfulness

Practicing mindfulness meditation trains your brain to stay present and maintain attention. Even just five minutes a day of mindful breathing can strengthen your ability to focus amidst distractions.

9. Stick to a Routine

Developing daily habits creates stability, making it easier to concentrate. Setting times for waking up, working, exercising, and unwinding removes decision fatigue and improves mental clarity.

10. Get Enough Sleep

A tired mind struggles to focus. Prioritize quality sleep by maintaining a consistent bedtime routine, limiting screen time before bed, and creating an environment conducive to rest.